Last updated: October 2026
AfterFirst has no accounts. Your partner profile, dates, events, gifts, journal, conflicts and photos are stored only on your device, protected by your phone's built-in encryption. The only exception is the AI Coach, described below, and only when you choose to use it.
The AI Coach asks your permission before its first request, and you can turn it off at any time in Settings > Privacy. When you send a request, AfterFirst sends your question and relationship context (your partner's name, nickname, pronouns, birthday, relationship dates, favorites, likes and gift list, plus your recent dates, journal entries and conflict notes) over an encrypted connection to our server, hosted on Cloudflare. Our server forwards it to Anthropic, which runs the Claude AI model, and returns the reply.
Photos you add stay on your device. They are never uploaded.
Subscriptions are processed by Apple's App Store (or Google Play on Android). We use RevenueCat to confirm whether your subscription is active. RevenueCat receives an anonymous app ID and your purchase history, never your relationship data. We never see your payment details.
AfterFirst does not use any analytics, advertising or tracking SDKs.
"Send Feedback" opens your phone's email app. We only see your email address if you choose to send us a message.
Reminders are scheduled locally on your device. No notification data is sent to a server.
Settings > Delete All Data permanently removes everything from your device. AI Coach usage counts on our server expire on their own within 48 hours.
We do not sell or share your data. There are no ads, trackers or data brokers. The only services that ever receive data are the ones named above: Cloudflare and Anthropic (AI Coach), and Apple, Google and RevenueCat (purchases).
AfterFirst is not directed at children under 13.
Questions? Email us at hello@afterfirst.app.